get through this greiving process. Today is one of those days where something reminds you of your loss. Today it was Toby Keith's song "I'm not crying for you". It sure set me to crying, which I know I needed. It started with the song and then went on to feeling very overwhelmed. I believe part of the grieving process is being overwhelmed. Ovewhelmed by what we ought to do, what we feel like we should be doing, and feeling like we should be further along this journey than we are and all those darn grief books don't seem to touch too much on being overwhelmed. Well, fellow widow(er)s, it is part of grief and it usually comes because we expect to be further along our journey than we are. No one else expects us to do things we aren't capable of doing right now, so why are we so hard on ourselves. It's because most of us want to please others, or be there for our families who are also grieving. We think we have to be strong for others. We think that others expect us to be "over" it by now. Grieving is a long journey of loss, of memories, of leaving behind, of moving forward and of re-inventing ourselves and we need to allow ourselves time to go through it in a safe, healthy way. And so... I know I can, because God will see me through and re-invent me into what he wants me to be for the next stage of my life. It doesn't mean there will be no more bad days, it just means that I will allow myself time to go through this journey and not feel guilty or bad for not feeling like doing things. I am more peaceful and feeling gentle this evening and am thankful for what I learned today.
On the stitching front, I started to "finish" (operative word here) an afghan I started about a year ago. One which is done in patches, with each block being knit in a different stitch. So far I have two squares done - one of them being done today. The other thing I did was set up the "bones" and continued to hand quilt one of my UFOs. I also took one bin and finished sorting, ironing and generally just enjoying the process of getting ready to get some of my scraps into quilts. I really like Sue's UFO challenge as so far no one has given me the what for, for only finishing two things and not showing pictures of anything else. You never know when the pictures might show up - I'll just surprise you all.
We had a Holdiay here today, so was nice to have a four day weekend. Enjoyed some time with my daughter-in-law. We went shopping for items to stage their present house and then use in the new house. It was fun and found some wonderful items for the next Grandmom, granddaughter tea. Every few months my granddaughter and I have a tea. I send an invitation to her in the mail (sometimes this includes other guests) and I tell her how to dress i.e. we will be wearing hats and gloves this time, or wear your dancing shoes. She is four and gets a hoot out of our teas. She use to like it when granddad would come and bug us for some goodies, so when we have our next one, we will set out an extra place for granddad. Hope he is enjoying his tea and goodies in heaven!
Blessings - Jean
On the stitching front, I started to "finish" (operative word here) an afghan I started about a year ago. One which is done in patches, with each block being knit in a different stitch. So far I have two squares done - one of them being done today. The other thing I did was set up the "bones" and continued to hand quilt one of my UFOs. I also took one bin and finished sorting, ironing and generally just enjoying the process of getting ready to get some of my scraps into quilts. I really like Sue's UFO challenge as so far no one has given me the what for, for only finishing two things and not showing pictures of anything else. You never know when the pictures might show up - I'll just surprise you all.
We had a Holdiay here today, so was nice to have a four day weekend. Enjoyed some time with my daughter-in-law. We went shopping for items to stage their present house and then use in the new house. It was fun and found some wonderful items for the next Grandmom, granddaughter tea. Every few months my granddaughter and I have a tea. I send an invitation to her in the mail (sometimes this includes other guests) and I tell her how to dress i.e. we will be wearing hats and gloves this time, or wear your dancing shoes. She is four and gets a hoot out of our teas. She use to like it when granddad would come and bug us for some goodies, so when we have our next one, we will set out an extra place for granddad. Hope he is enjoying his tea and goodies in heaven!
Blessings - Jean
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